I was in love once. He was quite the looker but he wasn’t a well-established man in the money-milking society. We met while on the ocean and made steamy, hot love inside a car. We danced and drank and spat. He even drew me like one of his French girls, until an iceberg did us apart. Maybe it wasn’t me but the break up was effortless, right? Here are 10 ways for you to break up without causing a scene:
1. Break it to them without any hatred
Some people make the mistake of saying “I want to break up with you” in contempt. Instead, try to sit down and tell them you don’t feel like it anymore. The more despise there is in your voice, the bigger the scene will be.
2. Don’t break up over text
This is a mistake that I made. I broke up with my ex over text because – i) we were in a long-distance relationship, and ii) it seemed more convenient. For someone who hates confrontations, that seemed like an easy way out. He would call me, text me, call my mom and cry, call my sister and cry. In a nutshell, the break up lasted several months.
3. Write down your emotions
If you aren’t sure about what to say to them, you might want to spend some time writing them down in a notepad. That will help you round off your feelings easily. Plus, you can word it out keeping the opposite party’s reactions in mind.
4. Don’t let your friend break up for you
Another mistake I made – I had my friend text him as yours truly. It was faster and easier but not authentic. Breaking up with someone should be a private matter and it should be done in one’s own style. Having someone else do that for you can only worsen things and you might lose track of what you were saying since you weren’t the one saying it.
5. Don’t sync Google accounts
Now, this isn’t something you do while you’re breaking up. You need to take care of this the minute you start dating. If you sync your Google accounts, they might call up everyone you know and harass them.
6. Cut-off all contact with them
The moment you’re sure things have ended the way you wanted them to, sever all ties with the person. If it means blocking their number and their profile from every social media platform, do it. It will reduce complications in the future.
7. Be understanding
It is a tough moment for someone who is being broken up with. Be patient and understanding. It’s not every day your heart gets broken into a million pieces.
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All of the above advice is based on the assumption you’ve had a pretty great relationship but you don’t feel it anymore. We will be coming back with more advice on how to leave someone who has bipolar disorder or is a complete narcissist.