Not everyone is a pro at whispering sexy nothing’s into their partner’s ears making them orgasm with nothing but words. But some people aren’t good at it. As if, they weren’t meant for that. You don’t have to be a pornstar to do that. Unless your partner likes being said, “You like that, huh!”, you’re in a good place. Here are 7 ways for you to be better at dirty talking:

1. Communicate with your partner the boundaries

Before venturing further into the zone of dirty talk, establish with your partner what you’re comfortable with. Have them communicate to you what they want and why do they want it. If you’ve watched Sex Education, you’d know Ms Sands liked being dirty talked to as it made her feel sexy.

2. Say what you want before sex, say what you like after

If you follow this guideline, you’ll become an expert in dirty talking (*fingers crossed*). I am no pro at dirty talking but with the help of my boyfriend, it gets fairly easy. Emphasis on fairly, please. Here’s an example:

Before sex, you can say something like, “I want you to put your mouth on my [insert nickname for your schlong].” After sex, you can something on the lines of, “I like it when you squeeze your [insert urban slang for genitalia] around me.”

3. Colourful descriptions

You can always say, “you’re so hot.” There’s nothing wrong in saying that. But doesn’t it sound better when you say, “I like your fingers digging into my skin when I’m inside you”? Yeah, that raised the bar to another level.

4. Use your five senses

For a beginner, “You look hot” and “You smell gorgeous” is great. But if you want to improve yourself, try using your five senses. “I will fuck you so hard you can’t remember your own name at the end of it.”

5. Try to get out of your comfort zone

It’s okay if you’re new to this. And it’s completely fine if you’ve never done this before. Trust me when I say that. I suck at dirty talking. I’d rather suffocate myself with a pillow than whisper “Yes, daddy” to my boyfriend. It’s because I am insecure it’s going to turn him off and he’s going to stop loving me because I’m lame and then I fall down a rabbit-hole. It’s easy to get caught up in your own head. But, don’t. It’ll make your life difficult. Plus, what better way to amp your acting skills if not in the bedroom with your partner.

6. Sext if you’re new at dirty talking

As taboo as it might be, it helps beginners. It helped me. I’d turn red thinking I have to say something erotic to my partner. Even if we were divided by a phone screen and were sitting five cities or so apart.

7. Stop thinking too much

If your partner has seen your hairy butthole, chances are they don’t care if you think you sound lame. To them, you might not. You’re not Alice so crawl out of the rabbit-hole and into your partner’s arms.

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