It is often discussed how difficult it is to understand women. But if men really paid attention to the details, observe and learn along the way, they can be more in-tuned with the wants and needs of the women in their lives. Maybe if we can all communicate a little better, we can finally get ourselves on the same page and, in turn, not end up in consecutive tried-and-failed relationships.
1. Mutual Respect
No woman would ever speak up about demanding respect as mutual respect should be the number one building block to a stable relationship. She deserves to be treated as your equal because she is. There can’t be any other answer on why you should respect her except this.
We all have things we want to improve about ourselves. We all have our own insecurities – but when it comes to the person we love, we don’t pick the parts of them we do or don’t like. We have to accept them as a whole and support them while they work on those things they want to improve. She wants you to love and accept her as she is while being appreciative of her family and her social circle.
She wants you to commit to the relationship, and that does not mean just sending her cute texts or gifts. She wants to see you put in efforts to make her happy and be genuinely concerned about her. She wants you to prioritise and cherish her and have time for her.
It goes without saying that honesty and transparency are the primary things that build a relationship. You must be honest about what you want from the relationship, about who you are, about your intentions – from the very beginning. Much more fulfilling relationships will come to you if you are just straight up about what it is that you do or don’t want.
5. To Feel Desired
To feel desired – not just from what you say, but by what you don’t say. The way you touch her, the way you look at her, the way you hold her hand or how you listen to her. These small things make her feel close to you both physically and emotionally. That connection will go farther than compliments ever will.
She wants your attention. When you are together, she wants you to devote your time to her and not be busy on the phone or with work. Sure, everybody has their own things to deal with, but she wants your time together to be just about the two of you without anything else getting in the way.
Romance and courtship should not be reserved for the ‘honeymoon phase’ of a relationship. They should not fade over time but increase as she becomes a bigger and more important part of your life. There have been too many instances where the “gentleman” façade has faded away with time and this can take a huge toll on your relationship.
8. Good Communication
There is a big difference between talking to a woman and talking with a woman. There is also a big difference between hearing her and really listening to her. Active communication is essential to the success of any relationship because that is the only way people can really open up about themselves and that determines the level of trust they have for each other. No relationship can survive without good communication.
9. Subtle Displays Of Affection
You need to keep reminding her from time to time that she is still the same woman you had fallen in love with. Holding her hand while you are outdoors, wrapping an arm around her shoulder at the movies, resting a hand on her knee while driving, a quick kiss on the forehead will all keep reminding her about the affection you have for her and keep your romance evergreen.
10. Being Old School
Romance and chivalry aren’t dead. In fact, being old-school is probably one of the most romantic things women are appreciative about. Write her letters instead of texting her, surprise her by taking her out on random dates, buy her flowers, take long walks together, call her just to say you love her. There are many ways to make a woman blush tomato that never go out of style.
It takes two people to make a relationship work. Life is not a happy song by Stevie Wonder, it is more of a rollercoaster ride with drums in the background. When you’ve found someone you want to ride the rollercoaster with, make sure you keep her and make sure you keep in mind how to make your bond stronger.