Wherever you travel over the world wide web, you will come across articles telling you to immediately exit a relationship if the man is a complete mama’s boy. Or, if the woman is a daddy’s girl.
Wikipedia has described such men to be excessively attached to their mother at an age which is perceived as one of complete independence. It is often associated with personality disorders or mental illnesses for which the mother acts as a caregiver. While in some cultures it is considered to be a mundane part of human personality and development, it is often perceived as a taboo in others.
The Blatant Sexism Present
Although there are articles gradually working towards abolishing the stereotypes around the term – Daddy’s Girl, there are hardly any articles catering to the male population. The internet is overpopulated with nonsense articles telling you not to date a Mama’s boy since they’re basically a man-baby.
Why You Can Be A Mama’s Boy (And Will Anyway Be)?
Articles will describe how it isn’t okay for women to date a mama’s boy because they’ll never be truly independent. If they’re a person with an insight then you’d realize what is right and what is not.
1. Independence doesn’t depend on a mother’s love
Just because a man loves his mother doesn’t mean he isn’t independent. What has independence got to do with one’s mother? A woman’s independence isn’t brought up when she is close to her father. Then why should a man be pushed under a bus? She is the woman who gave birth to him and unless she has done something really vile to him, he’d never give her up.
2. She will not control your life
This common misconception arises with the multitudes of daily soaps being shown on the television daily. No one has the right to control anyone’s life. If you find them to be a bit over-bearing then tell them instead of suppressing the frustration. This isn’t the 20th century. A man doesn’t need to suspend communication with his mother because his wife stores pent-up anger towards her.
3. Your taste is your taste and hers is hers
A man isn’t that dumb to get his wife and his mother the same present. And even if he does, that does not mean he is a mama’s boy. It might just mean the man is too lazy to make the attempt of buying two different things from the mall.
4. Comparison! Comparison! Comparison!
Everyone compares their significant other to their parents – good or bad. Women have compared the man they’re dating to their father multiple times and have seldom admitted it.
5. Stubborn as a mule, or not
Maybe his every wish has been fulfilled by his mother, but so has your father done that for you. If someone is giving you a tough time because you’ve practically received everything from your mother, then why do you want to be with that person?
Thus, coming to the conclusion that it is absurd to think one needs to drift away from their parents because of their SO. If a woman’s attachment to her father not be seen as a sign of weakness, then so shouldn’t be a man’s.